Gratitude

“You have always taken me for granted!”

This phrase of few words has always done critical damage to the relations but many of us weight it very low, not even knowing what harm are we embedding in an another person with our ignored behaviors. If you have heard this phrase in your life then know it that your personality lacks gratitude, which is making you do an emotional abuse to the other either consciously or unconsciously.

“Gratitude is essentially the recognition of the unread increments of value in one’s experience”. Gratitude is simply the habit of saying “thank you” but it isn’t as simple as it may seem. Gratitude is an inherent quality which resides in each person but is only triggered when different situations arise. Some people are inherently very much regardful while some learn it upon facing calamities in life due to its absence.

It’s the truest law of life that we tend to take our family members, spouses, and friends, the most as granted and lack in appreciating them for their every little kind gesture done to us. Today parents complain to us for not valuing their sacrifices, friends complain about not responding to their calls/messages promptly, spouse complains about not paying enough attention, ever pondered why? It is because these deeply knit relations of life expect gratitude silently but they never say it through words. No matter how infinite the love of a mother is, she would always expect to hear good words of thankfulness from her children. Ever wondered why a little gift to your parents cheer them immensely that they flaunt and tell all that their child has gifted them this? It is because they feel responsive to their goodness done to you all your life, through your behavior, which is very much essential to show for healthy relationships.

Life can surely move without feelings, emotions, expressions and not being thankful but it can never be called as a ‘life’ in its truest meaning. Bottling up feelings, ignoring them, not feeling the urge to express or thinking negatively that what your little words would do, has welcomed the majority of the problems in our relationships. Today the most beautiful relations have fallen apart because we have started lacking in the most basic caring elements like appreciation, gratitude and being grateful.

But it is never too late to learn what’s important in life and in realizing that whatever and whoever you are today is only because of the close relations in your life, who stood by you in every kith and kin and left no stone unturned in appreciating and encouraging you to face life’s difficulties. Not all marriages are falling apart because they lack intimacy but it’s because they are lacking gratitude, which is silently numbing the expectations and killing this sacred relation. So start valuing the important relations by small beautiful gestures of saying “thank you” and see how beautifully your life transforms into a happy life. Appreciate the little efforts done by people for you, take great care of their little feelings and expectations from you, for they expect from you because they think you important and ignoring such gestures would be a disgrace to their care from your side. So be very cautious in respecting and valuing feelings and this world would feel a better place to live in.

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